Therapy for Grief
In person in Tulsa, Oklahoma
Virtually across Oklahoma & Minnesota
Grief doesn't always look like what people expect.
Sometimes it's a death.
A marriage ending.
A diagnosis.
A friendship that quietly faded.
A version of your life you thought you'd have that isn't happening.
And sometimes it's been months or years, and you're still waiting to feel like you've "moved on"…as if that's a real place you're supposed to arrive at.
There's no schedule for grief, and there's no version of it that's too small to bring into a session.
You might relate if…
People around you seem to think you should be "further along" by now (and maybe you think that too)
You're grieving something that's hard to explain or that others don't fully understand
You go through stretches of feeling okay, then get knocked over by something small
You're not sure if what you're feeling counts as grief, exactly, but it's heavy
You want space to talk about it without managing someone else's discomfort
What does grief therapy actually look like?
Grief work isn't about getting over something, it's about learning to carry it differently. That looks different for everyone: for some people it's making sense of a relationship that ended in a complicated way, for others it's grieving a future they'd planned on, or finding room for both the loss and the parts of life that are still moving forward.
I use an approach that draws on narrative work and Internal Family Systems (IFS), which means we're not rushing toward "resolution." We're making room for the parts of you that are still hurting, still adjusting, or still angry, without judgment about how long that takes.
A few common questions
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No. Some people come in the week after a loss; others come in years later when something unrelated brings it back up. Both are common, and both are okay.
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That's still grief. Divorce, estrangement, illness, job loss, and other major life changes all bring real loss with them, and are all things we can work with.
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No. The ‘5 stages of grief’ is an outdated model and was not properly researched before it met the masses. What current research does show us, is that grief does not moves in a straight line. We’ll work within that curvy path to process and heal.
Getting started
Sessions are 50 minutes
$125 (out of pocket)
I'm in-network with Blue Cross Blue Shield and Health Choice in Oklahoma. In Minnesota, I’m in network with Optum (Medica, most United Healthcare plans)
In-person sessions are available near downtown Tulsa; telehealth is available for Oklahoma and Minnesota residents.
The first step is a free 15-minute consultation call, so we can talk before you decide anything.