Therapy for Complex Family Relationships & New Parenthood
In person in Tulsa, Oklahoma
Virtually across Oklahoma & Minnesota
Maybe it's the phone call you dread before you've even picked up. Maybe it's the role you've played in your family since you were a kid
the fixer, the peacekeeper, “the one I never have to worry about"
and you're realizing you never actually agreed to that job. Maybe you just had a baby, and suddenly every old family dynamic you thought you'd left behind is showing back up, louder than before.
Family relationships are rarely simple, and they don't come with an off switch. This is space to look at those dynamics and the feelings underneath (the guilt, the obligation, the love that's real but complicated) without having to protect anyone else's feelings about it while you do.
You might relate if…
You play a specific role in your family (the responsible one, the mediator, the one who keeps the peace) and you're tired of it (and not sure who you'd be without it)
A relationship with a parent, sibling, or other family member feels loaded in a way you can't quite explain to people outside the family
You're navigating estrangement, distance, or a complicated boundary with someone you're related to
Becoming a parent has stirred up old dynamics from your own upbringing, and you weren't expecting
You love your family and find them exhausting, and you feel guilty for both of those things being true
What does this look like in session?
This work usually starts with mapping the actual dynamic— not just what happens, but the roles, loyalties, and unspoken rules that keep it running the way it does. From there, we work with an attachment-informed lens and Internal Family Systems (IFS) to understand where those patterns came from, often tracing back to earlier family roles that made sense at the time and don't serve you the same way now.
For new parents specifically, sessions often include space to notice which parts of your own upbringing you want to carry forward, which parts you don't, and how to hold both without guilt.
A few common questions
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Sessions are individual. Most family-dynamic work happens through understanding and changing your own part in the pattern, which is something you can do even if no one else in the family is in therapy.
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Those aren't contradictory, and you won't be asked to choose one. A lot of this work is about holding both at once.
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Not in the traditional sense of everyone in a room together. This is individual therapy focused on family relationships and patterns, which tends to be a better fit when not everyone in the family is ready or willing to do that work together.
Getting Started
Sessions are 50 minutes
$125 (out of pocket)
I'm in-network with Blue Cross Blue Shield and Health Choice in Oklahoma. In Minnesota I’m in network with Optum (Medica, most United Healthcare plans)
In-person sessions are available in Tulsa; telehealth is available for Oklahoma and Minnesota residents.
The first step is a free 15-minute consultation call— a chance to talk before deciding anything.